I can't apologize enough for not keeping up with this blog. To those who continued to follow me despite lack of contact: Thank you.
Alright, let's get started!!!
This is a simple tip, and you are welcome to take it into consideration OR ignore it:
Tip #6: If you HAVE to use the cold-shoulder trick, the person you want isn't worth your time.
Continue reading if you plan on trying this out and not taking heed to my advice:
You all know what the cold shoulder is, but have you seen it used in potential relationships?
I have seen it and used it. Some people say they got the love of their life by ignoring and pretending not to be interested. The times I used it, I knew something had to be wrong. How is pretending not to be interested showing who I really am?
Here is the main situation where one would think the cold shoulder is necessary:
Person A appears interested in Person B
Person B reciprocates feelings
Person A shies away/begins avoiding Person B
Person B feels vulnerable
Now, at this point a lot of Person B chase after their pursuer hopelessly infatuated under their charming "I can be nice when I want" spell not knowing this may of been Person A's intention in the first place.
Some people like to get their hooks into you just to stroke their ego and prove to themselves they can.
Here is a personal example of how this situation played out, and how I used the cold shoulder:
After turning down guys for my first 3-quarters of freshman year, Prince Charming lays the magic charm on me simply because he was told I would refuse him. I fell for his charisma, wit, wolverine features and pretty hair. / I didn't see I was a goal, and since I had delt with exs who were more upfront and honest about why they perused me, I expected him to be; that was not the case. Once I caught on, it was a eros-war that ended in under 2 months. / The following year as I used the cold shoulder he came calling once more..how predictable! Don't worry, reader, I don't fall for the same trick twice. I was able to politely tell him to fu-- off and find a gullible girl to try that game on.
Revenge doesn't come from a warm fuzzy place, and I wasn't happy once I got it.
So believe me, this tip isn't coming from nowhere.
The truth is, for many people the rule is: The worse you treat someone, the more they want you.
THAT is what the cold-shoulder comes down to.
If you feel like you need to use this on someone who once seemed interested, but now pretends you don't exist it's probably best to leave it alone. BUT, before I learned that I had to try it out first so if you are in that experimental phase by all means, charge ahead blindly!!!
Until next time,
Peace, blessedness, and light.
